You are love. You are what exists before all stories. ~Byron Katie
We went away for the weekend to Portsmouth which is near an awesome farm called Manor Farm which sits in an awesome foresty park. Manor farm had baby duckies (eeeee). There was 1 mummy ducky with 15 (seriously) baby duckies. My head dazzled at the thought of having 15 babies. Bow down to the mummy ducky. And Portsmouth had a pier with a carousel. I love carousels. Particularly this one as it had pretty horses and colours.
The weekend was intended to relax and unwind me, but that was easier said than done as things like temperature, noise, type of mattress and Dylan all influenced my nightly rest and so I came home pretty much less relaxed, but definitely having had fun. :-)
Dylan had fun too. He particularly loved swimming in the hotel pool and exploring trees near the farm, also, picking up stones, attempting to walk through puddles and befriending all the ‘oofs’ that came his way. He also loves sitting in the front of the car, on daddy’s seat, pretending to ‘drive’ the car. A real boy’s boy, apparently. I find it fascinating that ‘boy qualities’ appear so early in children even though their parents don’t tend to enforce any particular gender behaviour upon them. He just likes cars, already. Mh.
I’ve been feeling sick. I was nauseous before due to the noro virus, but the sickie feeling has lingered on and I’m now thinking it’s proper pregnancy sickness, which is weird as I didn’t have any pregnancy sickness with Dylan at all and there was none of it before the noro virus either, so I think it’s weird that I should now all of a sudden have pregnancy sickness, but it also can’t still be the noro virus either. It’s like the noro virus ‘kick-started’ the nausea and then my stomach went: oh yeaeahah, we’re pregnant so we should be sickie. I’m not enjoying it. I’m not full on ‘needing to vomit’ sick all the time, but no food seems attractive or interesting and it’s important to get all the right nutrients in the first trimester, of course. So I’m force-feeding myself, but I often end up eating ‘crap food’ which I think I can ‘keep in’. Like potato wedges or something.
Anyhoo. Other than that. Things are still up and down with Dylbee. I have wonderfully amazing moments with him as well as totally exhausting ones.
Andy and I were musing on why I find it so difficult when Dylan is ‘difficult’ as Andy doesn’t enjoy it, but it doesn’t zap him from energy like it does me.
Well, of course there is the fact that
1. I am pregnant in first trimester so I’m already totally exhausted anyway
2. I have rheumatoid arthritis. One of the major symptoms of this disease is fatigue.
3. I am still fighting off 2 or 3 viruses over the last month.
4. I generally don’t sleep well as I attend to Dylbee (though he hardly wakes in the night anymore)
So those factors are there anyway. But, if you look at how I’ve always run my life, I have always wanted ease and comfort in my life. If something doesn’t go ‘my way’ and it’s causing me undue extra effort, I figure out a way to sort it. I remember as a child (probably being 10 or something) I used to sleep in a high sleeper and if I wanted to read in bed before sleeping I only had the main light that was on. It started to bug me that I had to actually get up out of the high sleeper to switch off the light every night so I devised this system which included a piece of string and little nails in the wall which basically enabled me to remain in bed and simply pull the string and switch off the light without getting out of bed. Ease, comfort and efficiency. I’ve always loved that in life.
When I can’t sort out a problem that makes me really uncomfortable and uneasy I get really down about it and it drains me.
And this is what is happening with Dylbee at the moment. There are several things he wants to or does not want to do like: he does not want to sit in the car seat for instance, yet we have to go home, he then screams and arches his back etc. And it’s real high energy and there is very little I can do about it, OR I have to give it all of my energy to sort it out. And so because there isn’t an easy solution (well there can be in the form or shouting/ hitting but of course we don’t do that) it makes me tired and down.
But it’s odd. Within the span of 1 day there’ll be 3/4 high energy annoying moments and then we came home this afternoon and Dylan was an absolute lovely delight. So delightful in fact that I’d have another 3 of him.
So it’s jumping from one end of the spectrum to the other. Like a seesaw. Ha. But through all of that, there is an undeniable force of love for the little man. A fire which I know will never burn out. Never.
I am loving how Andy is seeing and taking all this, he’s saying that this baby experience, having Dylan, is making him feel more connected to humanity. He keeps saying ‘this is what all the people before us have gone through’ and it makes him feel connected. He’s pretty amazing, my husband. :)
In other news. I had the first appointment with my new midwife for baby nr 2 last week and she was super lovely. Last time round I was pushed from one midwife to the next so none of them really committed to me, but this one is sticking with me throughout. I love that. According to her my due date is November 9th. :) I have the official dating scan on the 4th May. :)
It feels kinda strange to do all the maternity stuff and pregnancy stuff again. But also exciting. :)
Of course, it also feels daunting. If one can be this difficult, what is 2 going to do to me? Ha ha. Ah well, we shall see!
On the course front, 21 secrets has started and it’s going so wonderfully. There is such a wealth of information on this course, it’s super cool. You can still sign up if you haven’t already. (Thank you all so much to those who have already signed up through my link, it means LOADS to me! :D).
Also, my M3 course is now available on DVD/ self study and that is going well as well! Check out HERE, if you’re interested in signing up.
I am working on a new digital course which will include basics on photoshop and PDF making. People have been asking me for a while now to teach photoshop and digital art so that will be my first next course, though there are other courses in the pipeline too! More on those soon.
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