I bristled recently when I heard a prominent psychologist claim that empathy can be a bad quality in people. I half-chuckled, half felt bile rise in my throat, wanting to throw up at the notion.
Now, I get that I must first define the term in order defend that response. Empathy is not lenience. It’s not passivity, or tolerance for harm. True empathy doesn’t excuse; it understands. It gets close. And from that place of understanding, love, connection, repair, restoration, and justice can flow. 💕
As a child, I was often told that kindness was a weak, even foolish quality. The world, I was taught, required ruthlessness, cunning, efficiency; cut-throat ambition. But my little soul disagreed. I longed for softness, gentleness, warmth. I felt safe around true kindness. Even then, I bristled at the suggestion that love and compassion were naive or useless.
Years later, I met Andy (my beautiful soulmate) and he introduced me to the work of Marshall Rosenberg and Nonviolent Communication. It was a profound homecoming. Rosenberg`s work validated what I had felt all along: that empathy and compassion are not just lovely ideas; they are powerful tools for healing trauma, transforming conflict, and creating a more just and loving world.
This is why love, compassion, and empathy are such central themes in my art. Today I’m sharing one of the first paintings I created with this focus, back in 2014. It’s whimsical and folk-arty, simple but strong in message. I still love it.
Let this be a reminder: kindness is not weakness. Empathy is not indulgence. These qualities are fierce and world-changing when we let them guide us.
This is day 8 of a ‘gentle return to social media’ read more about this practice here: http://bit.ly/3IHFxir 🌱