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April 16, 2018

Simple Steps to Self Empathy <3 Love note #17

By Tamara Laporte  |   in love notes  | Tags: steps to self empathy , love notes , willowing  


♥ Willowing Love Notes to Inspire Self Love & Self Care ♥


Hello sweet friends,

I hope you know how much you matter. How important you are. That I know how much you can sometimes struggle and try your hardest, your bestest to ‘do it right’. I see you. I hear you. I understand.

Today, I wanted to share some Simple Self Empathy Steps with you that I hope might help you when you feel upset, overwhelmed or stressed.

In times of upset, we often try to ‘push through’ and ‘get on with our lives’ instead of paying attention to what our body is trying to tell us. Feelings need your attention and love. Unmet needs, need your attention and love.

It’s absolutely important, if not imperative, to make space and time for feeling/ hearing/ understanding your feelings and needs and be with them, if only for a moment, in a compassionate, empathic way.

Bonus: when you actually pay attention to your feelings, even the negative ones (especially the negative ones!) they dissipate more quickly! An interesting paradox for sure. Pushing them down keeps them firmly sitting stubbornly inside your body waiting to be heard!

So, ready? Here are some simple steps you can take when you’re feeling stressed, upset or overwhelmed. Hope it helps you. I have a high res version of this poster too, you can print it out and hang up to remind you of the steps if you want to.

When you look for feelings, look for ‘sensations’ & ‘feelings’ in the body, they are different from thoughts (though it’s fine to notice those too!) Sensations could be: tingling/ heaviness/ emptiness/ tired. Feelings could be: sad/ scared/ frustrated/ worried/ weary/ panicked/ angry etc. (Check out a comprehensive feelings list here).

When looking for needs, go deeper and look for needs that are essential to life such as: to be understood, love, connection, belonging, for your intention to be seen, respect, care, consideration, rest, freedom, play, beauty, spaciousness, etc. (Check out a comprehensive needs list here).

Download the high resolution version of this poster here. You can print out for personal use. Feel free to forward to friends. <3

Much love,
xoox
Tam x


PS. If you want to work more on self love & self acceptance AND develop your creative skills whilst having tons of fun, please consider joining Life Book 2018. We started in January but you can absolutely still join us!

Life Book has been joined by over 19,500+ people since it first began in 2012. It’s had roaring success through teaching participants creativity and personal development skills.

People send us daily message expressing their gratitude and how much Life Book has helped them both creatively and personally. :) I  feel so blessed to be able to host such a powerful and life-enriching course each year! This year has started with an incredible BANG and YOU can still join now problem. :) It’s not too late, you get access to all previous content, get life long access AND you can download everything too, so you have the content for year to come! :) Hope to see you there!
xoox

The Willowing Love Notes Series aims to send you a love note every 1 – 2 weeks.
Its mission is to support you on your self love and self care journey.
I hope you enjoy it. <3

From my heart to yours:
you are truly loved.

Big hugs!


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Hey magical beings! Tam here to announce that we have reopened the 37% off for A Year of Magic as part of our WILLOWING WINTER SALE! HURRY – THIS SALE ONLY LASTS 1 WEEK!

This is especially for all those who may have hesitated, or held off just a little too long and missed this wonderful course at this huge discount, and realising they are missing out of all the fun and are now clamouring to join!

✨🌙 THIS IS YOUR SIGN. 🌙✨

Once a year, a doorway opens.
Not loudly. Not with a giant bang!
But with a shimmer.
And if you’re the kind of soul who feels magic humming under the surface of ordinary life, who has ever paused at a fairy tale and thought “this is about me, somehow”… then lean in.

‘A Year of Magic & Fairy Tales’: The brand-new Willowing course! One of the most talked about courses in the online art world is back with 37% off in our Sale. This is a live course and we’ve just started! So come on in now! – There is a special code for this last chance to get the 37% discount – Use MAGICWINTER at the checkout!

The sale runs from February 5th. to February 11th, so don`t miss this chance!

Find out more and sign up here:

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Warm winter wishes,
Tam xoxo ❤️

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Hey magical beings! Tam here to announce that we have reopened the 37% off for A Year of Magic as part of our WILLOWING WINTER SALE! HURRY – THIS SALE ONLY LASTS 1 WEEK!

This is especially for all those who may have hesitated, or held off just a little too long and missed this wonderful course at this huge discount, and realising they are missing out of all the fun and are now clamouring to join!

✨🌙 THIS IS YOUR SIGN. 🌙✨

Once a year, a doorway opens.
Not loudly. Not with a giant bang! 
But with a shimmer.
And if you’re the kind of soul who feels magic humming under the surface of ordinary life, who has ever paused at a fairy tale and thought “this is about me, somehow”… then lean in.

‘A Year of Magic & Fairy Tales’: The brand-new Willowing course! One of the most talked about courses in the online art world is back with 37% off in our Sale. This is a live course and we’ve just started! So come on in now! – There is a special code for this last chance to get the 37% discount – Use MAGICWINTER at the checkout!

The sale runs from February 5th. to February 11th, so don't miss this chance!

Find out more and sign up here: 

https://bit.ly/AYOM-Tam 

Warm winter wishes,
Tam xoxo ❤️

In the middle of editing this troll lesson for next week and I was just hit by a wave of calm just gazing upon this super cute little face.

And many of you will know that over the years I`ve made many a innocent little creature and I`ve talked before how creating innocent, sweet characters have a direct calming effect on my nervous system. I don`t mean it metaphorically but biologically. My shoulders drop. My breathing slows. I feel a calm settling in.

Apparently; there’s science behind this: soft, friendly faces trigger oxytocin and parasympathetic responses linked to safety and bonding, while stress hormones drop. ✨🙌✨

But there’s something else too.

These characters don’t want anything. They’re not impressive, persuasive, ironic, or self-serving. They feel like little support characters whose only message is: "I’m here, with you, just sitting, being present for/ with you." ♥️

I think innocence signals something rare in adult life; presence without extraction, without needing something from you. And my body seems to trust that instantly.

I keep making characters like this because they *regulate* me as much as anyone else.

Leaving this here as a quiet reminder that gentleness has a real nervous-system impact.

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In the middle of editing this troll lesson for next week and I was just hit by a wave of calm just gazing upon this super cute little face. 

And many of you will know that over the years I've made many a innocent little creature and I've talked before how creating innocent, sweet characters have a direct calming effect on my nervous system. I don't mean it metaphorically but biologically. My shoulders drop. My breathing slows. I feel a calm settling in. 

Apparently; there’s science behind this: soft, friendly faces trigger oxytocin and parasympathetic responses linked to safety and bonding, while stress hormones drop. ✨🙌✨ 

But there’s something else too.

These characters don’t want anything. They’re not impressive, persuasive, ironic, or self-serving. They feel like little support characters whose only message is: "I’m here, with you, just sitting, being present for/ with you." ♥️

I think innocence signals something rare in adult life; presence without extraction, without needing something from you. And my body seems to trust that instantly.

I keep making characters like this because they *regulate* me as much as anyone else.

Leaving this here as a quiet reminder that gentleness has a real nervous-system impact.

Hey beautiful creatives! Tam here to announce the Wonderful Willowing Winter Sale! We have 30% off all Self Study classes at willowing.org for one week only! Are there some classes you’ve been thinking about picking up? Well now is your time to add those to your collection of classes! yay!
HURRY – THIS SALE ONLY LASTS 1 WEEK!

It’s getting really cold outside (over here in the Northern hemisphere), so I hope you’ll find the time to sit up in your creative space, grab your hot drink of choice and settle in for some wonderful, cozy, inspiring classes.

🎨 ENJOY 30% OFF all self-study courses for a limited time. Use code PAINT30 at checkout.
Some of my most popular courses are featured in this sale! Check it out:

‘Watercolour Wildlife’: We’ll be exploring the beauty of watercolours while creating stunning paintings of animals. – Use code PAINT30 at the checkout

‘Expressive Soul Portraits’: Utilise expressive acrylics combined with mixed-media while creating beautiful emotive portraits that capture parts of our soul! – Use code PAINT30 at the checkout

‘A Year of Light’: is back with 30% off in our Sale. This is now a self study course. Use code PAINT30 at the checkout

‘A Year of Magic’: The brand-new Willowing course! One of the most talked about courses in the online art world is back with 37% off in our Sale. This is a live course and we’ve just started! So jump in now! – There is a special code for this one – Use MAGICWINTER at the checkout!

Explore our diverse self-study collection, from one-off gems to immersive 4-month courses like Ever After, Kaleidoscope and other Creative Bundles. The sale runs from February 5th.to February 11th, so don`t miss this chance to indulge in soul-nurturing art classes.

View all courses here:

https://bit.ly/willowingss

Use code PAINT30 at checkout for your 30% OFF

Warm wishes,
Tam xoxo❤️

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Hey beautiful creatives! Tam here to announce the Wonderful Willowing Winter Sale! We have 30% off all Self Study classes at willowing.org for one week only! Are there some classes you’ve been thinking about picking up? Well now is your time to add those to your collection of classes! yay!
HURRY – THIS SALE ONLY LASTS 1 WEEK!

It’s getting really cold outside (over here in the Northern hemisphere), so I hope you’ll find the time to sit up in your creative space, grab your hot drink of choice and settle in for some wonderful, cozy, inspiring classes.

🎨 ENJOY 30% OFF all self-study courses for a limited time. Use code PAINT30 at checkout.
Some of my most popular courses are featured in this sale! Check it out:

‘Watercolour Wildlife’: We’ll be exploring the beauty of watercolours while creating stunning paintings of animals. – Use code PAINT30 at the checkout

‘Expressive Soul Portraits’: Utilise expressive acrylics combined with mixed-media while creating beautiful emotive portraits that capture parts of our soul! – Use code PAINT30 at the checkout

‘A Year of Light’: is back with 30% off in our Sale. This is now a self study course. Use code PAINT30 at the checkout

‘A Year of Magic’: The brand-new Willowing course! One of the most talked about courses in the online art world is back with 37% off in our Sale. This is a live course and we’ve just started! So jump in now! – There is a special code for this one – Use MAGICWINTER at the checkout!

Explore our diverse self-study collection, from one-off gems to immersive 4-month courses like Ever After, Kaleidoscope and other Creative Bundles. The sale runs from February 5th.to February 11th, so don't miss this chance to indulge in soul-nurturing art classes.

View all courses here:

https://bit.ly/willowingss

Use code PAINT30 at checkout for your 30% OFF

Warm wishes,
Tam xoxo❤️

I went heavy on the scribbles this evening. I call this: A Face Made of Storm and Stars. X

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I went heavy on the scribbles this evening. I call this: A Face Made of Storm and Stars. X

You are worthy ♥️♥️♥️

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You are worthy ♥️♥️♥️
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